How to Deal with Conflict in Your Marriage | Beyond Small Talk

Have you noticed conflicts with your spouse piling up during this quarantine? How do you deal with misunderstandings during a challenging time?

You may already be facing daily marital challenges, and now, with the current pandemic – you and your spouse can find it harder than ever to steer the family boat.

Conflict in marriage is not bad. It is natural and normal because you and your spouse are two different people with different backgrounds and personalities. What is bad is the refusal to solve conflicts and resort to just sweeping them under the rug.

How then do you increase the odds of successfully resolving conflicts and misunderstandings in your marriage without hurting your spouse?

Take these tips from Beyond Small Talk hosts Peter and Christine Kairuz! 

1. Adjust your tone

Words are powerful. They are helpful and healing. 

More so, the tone of your voice plays a huge impact on your conversation with your spouse. If the tone of your voice is a “bit” harsh or loud – even though you mean well with your statements – you might still come off as angry or confrontational. These can build or break your relationship.

As Peter advised, you can “have a healthy dialogue without being mean.” Christine supported this by mentioning what the Bible says in Proverbs 15:1 ESV “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” 

2. Let go of your personal agenda

Before you fully entangle yourself into the argument with your spouse, take time to pause and ask yourself: is my personal agenda more important than my spouse? Is being right more important than this relationship?

When hurt or wronged, people would normally want to prove that the other person is wrong. However, this is overrated! God wants you to humble yourself toward your spouse and be ready to forgive and accept forgiveness too. He wants you to live in harmony and love that person unconditionally – just as how God loves you.

With these in mind, who is right or wrong in your marriage becomes less important, or not at all relevant. Remember, plans and agenda can be easily changed, but a wounded relationship is harder to restore.

There are so many healthier choices that you can make than needing to be right. May you always choose to understand, forgive, and love your spouse no matter the conflict!

“With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” (Ephesians 4:2-3 ESV)

Are you going through a hard time in your marriage right now? Don’t hesitate to call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8737-0700, or send in your prayer requests to our Facebook page.

Stay tune to the next webisode of Beyond Small Talk on Saturday, June 6, 2020, on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page.